Red Flags and Green Lights: How to Know If You’re Ready for Marriage
Spot the Warning Signs—And the Green Lights—Before You Say ‘I Do’
Every relationship has both warning signs and affirmations. The couples who thrive are those who notice both—and act with courage and wisdom. Ignoring red flags is the fastest way to heartbreak, while recognizing green lights gives you confidence to move forward.
Common Red Flags
- Uncontrolled anger or jealousy
- Dishonesty or hiding important truths
- Refusal to grow or seek help
- Emotional unavailability or manipulation
Addressing these issues before engagement is crucial. Don’t hope they’ll go away—talk openly, seek counseling, and be willing to walk away if needed.
Green Lights to Look For
- Consistency in words and actions
- Kindness and respect, even during conflict
- Shared values and dreams
- Willingness to grow and adapt
Stories from Real Couples
Some couples ignored red flags and paid the price, while others found that noticing green lights gave them the courage to commit. The key is discernment: being honest about what you see and acting accordingly.
Take Action
- Have honest conversations about concerns and hopes.
- Seek premarital counseling to explore deeper issues.
- Trust your gut and your observations—not just your feelings.
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