How to Reconnect: Building Real Relationships in a Distracted World

Simple ways to revive empathy and deepen bonds—no tech detox required.

We live in an age of instant messaging, but meaningful connection feels more elusive than ever. In Bored and Brilliant, Manoush Zomorodi explores how our devices, even when silent, can undermine empathy and weaken our relationships. Studies show that the mere presence of a phone on the table reduces the quality of conversation and makes people feel less understood.

But the solution is simpler than you might think. Just putting your phone away during conversations can make a dramatic difference. Device-free time, even for a few days, has been shown to boost empathy—especially in children. Face-to-face talk, with all its nuance and spontaneity, builds trust and deepens bonds in ways no text ever could.

Try small changes: have device-free meals, schedule regular screen-free outings, or simply listen more attentively. These moments of undistracted presence are where true connection happens. As Zomorodi’s challenge participants discovered, relationships flourish when we give each other our full attention.

In a distracted world, real connection is a rare gift. Make time for it—you’ll be amazed at what you rediscover.