Why Codependency Is Keeping You Stuck (And How to Break Free!)

Do you feel responsible for everyone’s happiness? Are you always the one rescuing, fixing, or smoothing things over in your family? You may be caught in the web of codependency—a pattern that can keep you stuck for years. Drawing from Nedra Glover Tawwab’s wisdom and real-life stories, this blog will help you recognize codependency, understand its roots, and break free.



What Is Codependency?
Codependency is an unhealthy reliance on others for your sense of identity and worth. It often starts in childhood, when you learn that your needs come second to someone else’s—maybe a parent’s addiction, a sibling’s crisis, or a family’s unspoken rules.

The Trap of Enmeshment
Enmeshment happens when there are no clear boundaries between family members. Decisions, feelings, and even identities get blurred. This can make it nearly impossible to form healthy relationships outside the family.

How to Break Free

• Notice the Patterns: Are you always putting others first? Do you feel guilty for saying no?
• Affirm Your Autonomy: Use affirmations like 'I am learning to say no' or 'I am responsible for myself.'
• Take Small Steps: Let a call go to voicemail, or support someone without taking over.
• Seek Support: Therapy and support groups can help you build new habits.

Breaking codependency isn’t easy—families often resist change. But every step toward autonomy is a step toward freedom.



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