Master Your Inner Conflict: How 'Getting to Zero' Helps You Reclaim Your True Self

Have you ever felt torn between who you really are and the version of yourself you present to keep others happy or safe? This is the core inner conflict that Jayson Gaddis examines in 'Getting to Zero.' Understanding and healing this conflict is key to transforming your relationships and your life.

The True Self is our authentic, vulnerable essence—the part that desires honest expression and deep connection. The Strategic Self is a protective mechanism that adapts behavior to avoid rejection or harm, often at the cost of suppressing true feelings.

This conflict often originates in childhood when expressing our needs was met with inconsistency or neglect. Over time, the Strategic Self can dominate, leading to anxiety, dissatisfaction, and repeated relational patterns that feel stuck.

Recognizing this inner struggle is the first step toward healing. The book encourages compassionate self-reflection and offers tools to integrate these selves rather than letting them battle for control.

For example, journaling prompts and mindfulness exercises help you identify when your Strategic Self is speaking and gently invite your True Self forward. This integration fosters greater self-trust and empowers you to engage in conflict from a place of authenticity rather than fear.

When you reclaim your True Self, you not only improve your relationship with yourself but also open the door to more genuine and fulfilling connections with others.

By embracing this inner journey, 'Getting to Zero' guides you toward relational leadership—showing up with courage, humility, and compassion to create lasting change.