Why Self-Forgiveness Is the Secret Ingredient to True Healing

We all carry regrets, but how we respond to them shapes our path forward. Alexandra Elle’s 'How We Heal' shines a light on the transformative power of self-forgiveness—a practice often overlooked in the quest for healing. Elle argues that forgiving ourselves is not about forgetting the past, but about releasing its hold so we can move forward with grace.

Research supports Elle’s wisdom: self-forgiveness is linked to lower levels of anxiety and depression, and higher levels of self-esteem and resilience. But how do we begin? Elle suggests starting with a letter to your younger self. In this letter, you acknowledge mistakes, express compassion, and promise to treat yourself with kindness. This ritual, though simple, is deeply powerful.

Forgiveness is a process, not a one-time event. Some days, old regrets resurface, and the voice of self-criticism grows loud. Elle’s advice: remind yourself, 'I am allowed to begin again.' Each act of forgiveness creates space for emotional expansion and joy. 2

As you practice self-forgiveness, you’ll notice shifts in your relationships with others. Compassion for yourself naturally extends outward, deepening connections and fostering empathy. This ripple effect is at the heart of true healing.

Whether you’re struggling with guilt, shame, or simply the weight of past decisions, self-forgiveness offers a path to freedom. By embracing Elle’s practices and being patient with yourself, you can break free from the past and step boldly into a future defined by compassion and hope.