Why You Don’t Have to Pick Just One Passion: The Life-Changing Truth of 'Refuse to Choose!'

Have you ever been told to settle down, focus, or just pick one thing? If so, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. In her groundbreaking book, Refuse to Choose!, Barbara Sher flips the script on what it means to be 'scattered.' She introduces the concept of the 'Scanner'—someone who is endlessly curious, whose interests span disciplines, fields, and hobbies. For too long, Scanners have been misunderstood, even by themselves. Sher’s message is a beacon for anyone who’s ever felt guilty for wanting to do it all: You don’t have to choose. You can live a life that’s as broad and colorful as your imagination.

Sher’s deep empathy for Scanners comes through on every page. She explains that society’s obsession with specialization is a historical accident, not a universal truth. In fact, some of the world’s most creative thinkers—Leonardo da Vinci, Benjamin Franklin, Maya Angelou—were Scanners before the word existed. Sher offers a toolkit for living as a Scanner: from the 'daybook' (a notebook for all your ideas) to practical advice on finding 'good enough jobs' that pay the bills without draining your creative energy. She debunks the myth that dabbling is a sign of failure, arguing instead that it’s essential for innovation and personal growth. The blog also covers Sher’s strategies for managing overwhelm, dealing with unfinished projects, and communicating your needs to others. Drawing from expert reviews and reader testimonials, it showcases how the book has helped thousands of people finally feel seen and empowered to live authentically. If you’re ready to stop apologizing for your curiosity and start building a life that fits, this is your invitation to refuse to choose—and thrive. 1 2 3