The Myths and Realities of Work-Life Balance: What 'Lean In' Gets Right (and Wrong)

Work-life balance: the elusive goal that so many strive for, yet so few achieve. In 'Lean In,' Sheryl Sandberg argues that equal partnerships at home are crucial for women’s professional advancement. She urges women to 'make your partner a real partner' and to let go of perfection. But is it really that simple?

Research supports the idea that women with supportive partners are more likely to excel in their careers. . Yet, reality is often messier. Many women—especially single parents or those in lower-income jobs—don’t have the luxury of flexibility or help at home. The pressure to 'do it all' leads to stress, guilt, and burnout, a phenomenon known as the 'guilt gap.'

Sandberg’s advice resonates with those who have some control over their schedules or resources, but it can feel out of touch for others. Critics, including Michelle Obama, have pointed out that 'leaning in' is not always possible or fair for everyone. 1 Still, the book’s emphasis on prioritization, self-compassion, and asking for help is valuable for all. Letting go of perfection is not just a survival strategy—it’s an act of self-love.

Companies and governments also play a role. Paid parental leave, flexible work policies, and affordable childcare are essential for real work-life integration. Countries with these supports see higher workforce participation and greater satisfaction among both women and men. .

Ultimately, the lesson is clear: You can’t do it all, but you can do what matters most. And sometimes, that means redefining success on your own terms. 2