How Philosophy Can Save Your Life in Midlife (No, Really!)

Ancient Wisdom, Modern Healing: The Surprising Power of Philosophy in Your 40s and 50s

If you’ve ever wondered whether philosophy has anything to say about the messy, confusing, and sometimes painful realities of midlife, the answer is a resounding yes. Far from being abstract or irrelevant, philosophy offers concrete ways to deal with the challenges of aging, regret, and self-doubt. In 'Midlife: A Philosophical Guide,' Kieran Setiya shows how ancient and modern wisdom can help us heal and grow during this pivotal stage.

Philosophy began as a guide to living, not just thinking. The Stoics taught that we should focus on what we can control and accept what we cannot. Epicureans encouraged us to savor simple pleasures and avoid unnecessary pain. Even today, these lessons are more relevant than ever. When you hit midlife, you’re often forced to confront missed opportunities, lost dreams, or the realization that some doors are now closed. But philosophy teaches us to embrace these realities, rather than fight them.

One of the most powerful insights is the paradox of happiness: the more you chase it, the more elusive it becomes. Instead, happiness arises when you care about things outside yourself—whether it’s family, creative work, or helping others. Mindfulness, gratitude, and atelic activities (those that are valuable in themselves, like walking or listening to music) can anchor us in the present and provide lasting fulfillment. Cognitive behavioral therapy, which has philosophical roots, also helps us reframe negative thoughts and focus on what truly matters.

Setiya’s book is filled with practical exercises and real-life examples that show how philosophy can be a form of therapy. By reflecting on our values, accepting our limitations, and cultivating compassion for ourselves and others, we can turn midlife from a time of crisis into a period of profound growth and self-discovery. 1 2 3