Why the 'Midlife Crisis' Is a Myth—and What You Should Do Instead

Debunking the Crisis, Embracing the Journey: A Fresh Look at Midlife

For decades, the phrase 'midlife crisis' has haunted the minds of those approaching their forties and fifties. Popularized in the 1960s, it conjures images of impulsive sports car purchases, abrupt career changes, and existential despair. But is this narrative really universal—or even true? In recent years, thinkers and researchers have begun to challenge the myth, revealing a far more optimistic and nuanced story about the middle years of life.

First, let’s examine the origins of the midlife crisis. The term was coined by Elliott Jaques in 1965, but the concept quickly spread through pop culture, becoming almost a self-fulfilling prophecy. However, large-scale studies, such as those cited in Kieran Setiya’s 'Midlife: A Philosophical Guide,' show that while some people experience turbulence, most do not undergo a dramatic crisis. Instead, there is a subtle dip in life satisfaction—a U-shaped curve—followed by a recovery and often greater happiness later in life. This pattern is remarkably consistent across cultures and even appears in great apes, suggesting a biological component as well as a cultural one.

So why does the myth persist? One reason is the power of cultural narratives: we expect to feel dissatisfied, so we interpret ordinary doubts as signs of crisis. Another reason is the natural process of reassessing our lives as we age. Philosopher Kieran Setiya argues that this reflection is not a problem to be solved, but an opportunity for growth. By embracing philosophical practices—such as mindfulness, gratitude, and focusing on atelic (process-oriented) activities—we can find meaning and joy in the present, rather than chasing elusive goals or lost youth.

Setiya suggests that the antidote to midlife malaise is not radical change, but a shift in perspective. Instead of mourning paths not taken, we can appreciate the richness of our actual lives, the relationships we’ve built, and the wisdom we’ve gained. Mindfulness practices, borrowed from both Western and Eastern traditions, help anchor us in the present, reducing anxiety and increasing contentment. Studies show that people who cultivate gratitude and social connection are happier and even live longer.

Ultimately, the 'midlife crisis' is a myth that obscures the true possibilities of this stage of life. With the right mindset and tools, midlife can be a time of flourishing, not decline. So, if you find yourself facing doubts or regrets, remember: you’re not alone, and you’re not in crisis. You’re simply at a turning point—one that can lead to deeper meaning, happiness, and connection than ever before. 1 2 3 4