The SEE Pyramid: Unlocking Safety, Expression, and Enjoyment for Real Change

How to Build a Life You Love—One Gentle Layer at a Time

Imagine if your entire approach to self-improvement was built not on force or fear, but on three simple pillars: Safety, Expression, and Enjoyment. Kristen Butler’s SEE Pyramid offers a new way to create lasting change—one that honors your needs, supports your authenticity, and makes joy a daily practice.

At the base of the pyramid is Safety. Without it, all growth is shaky and unsustainable. Safety means having boundaries, supportive environments, and routines that ground you. Butler shares stories of people who transformed their lives simply by feeling safe enough to try new things—like the introvert who found her voice at work after creating a peaceful morning ritual.

The next layer is Expression. Once you feel safe, you can begin to show up as your true self—sharing your ideas, setting boundaries, and pursuing passions. Butler encourages readers to experiment with small acts of self-expression, such as journaling or creative hobbies, to rebuild self-trust and confidence.

At the top is Enjoyment. This is where life becomes sweet—where you find pleasure in the little things and celebrate your progress. Enjoyment isn’t about indulgence; it’s about savoring the present and making space for activities that fill your cup. Butler’s research shows that people who prioritize enjoyment are more resilient, creative, and fulfilled. 1 2

The SEE Pyramid is brought to life through the Create with Comfort Process: Define where you are, Develop a vision for where you want to go, and Direct your actions with gentle consistency. By moving through these steps at your own pace, you gradually expand your comfort zone and create a life that feels like home.

This approach is a radical departure from the mainstream self-help advice, offering a kinder, more sustainable path to growth. Ready to try the SEE Pyramid for yourself? Download our free worksheet and start building your foundation today.