Say Goodbye to Drama: How Not Making Assumptions Can Save Your Relationships

The Simple Habit That Can Eliminate 90% of Your Arguments

How many arguments in your life started because of a misunderstanding? If you’re like most people, the answer is: almost all of them. The third agreement—don’t make assumptions—may be the single most life-changing habit for anyone seeking harmony at home, work, or anywhere people interact.

Assumptions are mental shortcuts, but they’re often wrong. We assume we know what our partner is thinking, what our boss expects, or why a friend didn’t text back. These silent stories breed resentment and conflict, turning small issues into major dramas.

The antidote is simple: ask questions. Instead of assuming, get curious. “Did you mean this?” “Can you clarify?” This small shift can dissolve years of tension in moments. Real-life couples have shared how this agreement saved their marriages—by simply checking in before jumping to conclusions. In the workplace, teams that practice open communication see fewer conflicts and more innovation.

Our brains are wired to fill in gaps, but with practice, you can rewire them for clarity. Make it a habit to pause, breathe, and seek understanding. The result? Fewer arguments, deeper trust, and relationships that grow instead of break under pressure. Ready to ditch the drama? Start with one question today.