Taming Your Inner Gremlins: How to Build Unshakable Confidence

Confidence is often mistaken for a fixed trait, but it is actually a skill that can be developed. At the core of confidence-building is confronting your inner gremlins — those limiting beliefs that hold you back. Everyone has confidence gremlins, but recognizing and naming them is the first step to overcoming them.

Start by identifying your gremlins through reflection. What fears or doubts stop you from taking action? Visualize these gremlins as creatures or objects to externalize and reduce their power. Understand the specific situations that trigger them and test their assumptions by seeking evidence and taking small steps forward.

Celebrate progress, no matter how small, and learn from setbacks. Building confidence is a journey, not a destination.

Equally important is your Support Solar System — a network of people who love you unconditionally, understand your context, challenge you, and inspire you. This balanced support helps maintain and grow your confidence.

Finally, practice projecting confidence through body language, tone, and preparation. Confidence grounded in self-awareness and humility opens doors and builds trust.

With confidence tamed, you are ready to build a network that supports your growth and opens new career opportunities.

Sources: Summary of The Squiggly Career by Helen Tupper & Sarah Ellis, Toby Sinclair Blog 1 ; Shortform Summary 2 ; Deep Notes 3