You’re Not That Special: How Embracing Mediocrity Can Set You Free
Why accepting you’re average is the first step toward true freedom and growth.
From childhood, many are told they are unique, destined for greatness, and entitled to success. While encouraging confidence is important, this narrative has also bred a generation struggling with entitlement and unrealistic expectations.
The self-esteem movement, aimed at boosting confidence, sometimes inflated egos without fostering true competence or responsibility. Participation trophies and grade inflation created a sense of entitlement unearned by effort.
Entitlement manifests in two ways: as superiority, where one believes they deserve special treatment, or as victimhood, where one believes hardship entitles them to sympathy and exceptions. Both hinder growth and damage relationships.
Accepting that you are average is liberating. It relieves the pressure to constantly prove yourself and allows you to focus on authentic values and goals. Most people are average at most things, and embracing this reality fosters humility and resilience.
One story shows a musician who was rejected from a famous band but found joy in a simple life of music and family. His happiness came not from fame but from accepting his place and values.
Letting go of exceptionalism means taking full responsibility for your life. It means acknowledging your flaws and mistakes without excuses.
Next, we will explore how taking responsibility, regardless of fault, empowers you to shape your life.
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