Why Chasing Success is Making You Miserable (And What to Do Instead)

In a world obsessed with achievement, it’s easy to believe that more money, status, or accolades will solve our inner restlessness. But what if the very goals you’re chasing are the source of your dissatisfaction?

The Myth of Mount Delectable

Imagine a shining mountain called Mount Delectable, beckoning you to climb higher and higher. This mountain symbolizes society’s definition of success. Yet, reaching the summit often reveals not joy but more mountains to climb.

Social Comparison and Cultural Wants

Social comparison theory explains how we measure our worth by comparing ourselves to others. This often leads to pursuing goals that culture values but do not align with our true nature. Advertisements and social media amplify these wants, creating craving instead of fulfillment.

Distinguishing Want from Yearn

True desires arise naturally and bring ease and joy, while culturally induced wants create tension and exhaustion. By tuning into your physical sensations and quiet moments, you can begin to discern what you truly yearn for—peace, love, freedom—versus what you have been taught to want.

Stop the Hustle, Listen to Your Inner Teacher

Rather than pushing harder up the wrong mountain, the path forward involves slowing down and listening deeply to your inner guidance. This shift transforms life from a grueling climb into a joyful flow.

By understanding these dynamics, you can break free from the cycle of dissatisfaction and embrace a life that truly nourishes your soul.

Sources: Drawing on concepts from the book’s exploration of cultural pressures and supported by psychological insights into social comparison and mindfulness practices. 1 3