The 40 Questions That Will Change Your Relationships Forever

How Honest Self-Talk Can Transform Every Connection You Have

What if the secret to better relationships isn’t found in what you say to others, but in what you say to yourself? Dr. Corey Yeager’s 'How Am I Doing?' reveals how self-awareness and honest self-talk are the foundation of every healthy connection. Through 40 transformative questions, Yeager guides readers to examine their own patterns, needs, and boundaries before reaching out to others.

One of the most insightful exercises in the book is mapping your 'Supreme Court'—the handful of people whose opinions truly matter. By identifying your real models and truth-tellers, you can seek advice and feedback from those who know you best, rather than chasing approval from everyone. This focus on quality over quantity leads to more authentic, supportive relationships.

Yeager also encourages readers to reflect on the generational patterns they carry into their relationships. Are you repeating old scripts of silence, conflict, or avoidance? By naming and reflecting on these patterns, you can choose which to keep and which to change, breaking cycles that no longer serve you or your loved ones.

Perhaps most transformative is Yeager’s approach to boundaries. He teaches that boundaries aren’t about pushing people away—they’re about protecting your energy and honoring your values. By getting clear on your deal-breakers and communicating them with compassion, you set the stage for healthier, more fulfilling connections.

Whether you’re navigating family dynamics, deepening a partnership, or building new friendships, 'How Am I Doing?' offers practical tools and heartfelt wisdom for every stage of relationship growth. Start with yourself, and watch your relationships blossom.