How Am I Doing?: 40 Conversations to Have with Yourself

Let’s begin our journey with a gentle truth: the most important person in your life is, and always will be, you. This isn’t an invitation to arrogance or selfishness, but rather a recognition that your well-being is the foundation upon which every relationship, dream, and accomplishment is built. Imagine your life as a garden—if you do not tend to your own soil, nothing else can flourish. In the quiet moments, when the world’s demands press in, it’s easy to forget your own needs. But what if you could honor yourself with the same care and grace you offer others?

One powerful practice is the 'Corey Day'—a day set aside just for you, to recharge, reflect, and replenish. Think of it as putting your own oxygen mask on first, so you can breathe deeply and help others do the same. The author describes sitting quietly in his living room, letting the phone ring, ignoring the doorbell, and simply being present with himself. It’s not avoidance, but a sacred act of self-respect.

Another gentle tool is the mirror. Not just for checking your appearance, but for meeting your own gaze and asking, ‘How am I doing?’ The mirror becomes a friend, a confidant, a witness to your unfolding self. Each day, pause in front of the mirror and notice the first word that comes to mind—curious, tired, hopeful, anxious—and explore it with kindness.

Self-prioritization also means setting boundaries. It’s okay to let the phone go to voicemail, to say no to plans that drain you, and to ask for what you need. Over time, you’ll notice the difference: more energy, more clarity, and a deeper capacity to love and serve those around you. Self-care is not a luxury; it’s your most essential responsibility.

This is where our journey begins: with you, in your own sacred space, learning to honor your needs and embrace your worth. As you reflect, remember that every act of self-kindness ripples outward, transforming not only your life but the lives of everyone you touch. Let this be the foundation for all that follows.

Now, with this foundation of self-awareness, let’s move into the next chapter—exploring the dreams and possibilities that await when you give yourself permission to imagine.