7 Warning Signs You’re Dating an Emotionally Unavailable Man (And How to Walk Away)

Natalie Lue’s 'Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl' is a wake-up call for anyone who’s ever wondered, 'Is it me, or is he just not capable of real intimacy?' If you keep finding yourself confused, anxious, or craving more from your relationship, it’s time to learn the early warning signs of emotional unavailability.

Here are the top 7 red flags to watch for:

1. Blowing Hot and Cold: If he’s passionate and attentive one day, then distant or aloof the next, beware. This inconsistency creates anxiety and keeps you hooked.
2. Future Faking: He talks about moving in, marriage, or future trips, but never follows through. These promises are meant to keep you invested without real commitment.
3. The Reset Button: After a fight or disappearance, he expects to pick up where you left off, ignoring your hurt and questions.
4. Evasiveness: He’s vague about his feelings, avoids deep conversations, or deflects with humor or distraction.
5. Excuses and Blame: He always has a reason for why he can’t show up—work, stress, bad timing. Somehow, you end up feeling responsible for the relationship’s problems.
6. Inconsistent Effort: The relationship started strong, but now you’re doing all the work to keep it going.
7. You Feel Unseen: If you constantly feel like you’re not being heard, valued, or prioritized, trust that feeling.

How to Walk Away
Recognizing these signs is the first step. The next is to honor your own needs. Set clear boundaries, communicate your feelings, and if nothing changes, give yourself permission to leave. Remember, you deserve a relationship where love is consistent, safe, and mutual. 1 3

Trust your gut—red flags are there to protect you, not to challenge you to be the exception.