Stop Doing That Sht

Imagine yourself as a child, a magic little sponge, fresh and eager, soaking up every drop of life’s experiences around you. This sponge, your subconscious, absorbs language, emotions, and beliefs without judgment or choice. As days turn into years, this sponge begins to dry and harden, trapping stains of past experiences, some joyous, others painful, all shaping who you become. This is the foundation of self-sabotage — the unconscious patterns formed early on that quietly guide your thoughts and actions.

Consider how a toddler’s boundless curiosity slowly gives way to learned fears and limitations. What once was an open field of potential becomes a landscape marked by invisible fences built from early conditioning. These fences are the beliefs about yourself and the world that you never consciously chose but now carry as truths.

For example, a child who repeatedly hears dismissive or critical remarks may internalize a personal conclusion like “I’m not good enough.” This becomes a permanent stain within the sponge, influencing self-worth and behavior well into adulthood. Without awareness, these subconscious conclusions operate like autopilot, steering your life in ways that often undermine your goals and happiness.

The challenge is that these patterns are so deeply embedded that they feel like reality itself. Changing them requires more than positive thinking; it demands a conscious effort to recognize and soften the hardened sponge, releasing trapped beliefs and making space for new ways of being.

As you listen to this story, understand that your current struggles are not random but rooted in this early absorption. This insight is the first step toward liberation — to see yourself not as fixed but as a sponge that can be rewetted, reshaped, and renewed. This journey begins with acceptance of where you’ve come from and the courage to dive into the depths of your subconscious.

With this understanding, we prepare to explore the next vital piece: the life you were thrown into — the circumstances beyond your control that further shaped your sponge and set the stage for your unique pattern of self-sabotage. Let’s move forward to uncover how these external factors intertwine with your internal world.